Quick: Close your eyes, take a moment and think about the best sex of your life. While you might think back to a really ridiculously sexy one-night stand you had fresh out of college, other men might consider the best sex of their life to be with their wife, where a more intimate, personal connection was made. Though, generally speaking, a healthy, happy sex life means both partners are satisfied and happy — regardless of what kink (or lack of kink) gets them going, the real truth is that sex isn’t the same for women as it is for you.
It is a fairly commonly known fact that sex is often emotional for women, where it is more physical for men. This is not to say this is always the case, but each person is coming at the act and situation with their own needs and expectations. Where a woman might feel like good sex was feeling very connected to her partner, her partner might feel that good sex is both individuals coming to a climax.
If you want to know what women consider good sex, here’s what experts say matters the most to the ladies:
1) Good Sex Starts Before You Get Naked
Colleen Singer, sex commentator and expert says that while most men have figured out that foreplay is the key to a killer orgasm for most women (more on that later) — what most don’t realize is that women need to be teased, admired and flirted with long before clothes end up in a pile on the floor. Some calls this “mental lubrication”.
2) Good Sex Includes Kissing
Though it might seem like quite a long time ago that making out with someone seemed like the hottest thing ever, there’s something about locking lips that has a way of building intimacy. And for women, good sex isn’t just about how well your bodies glide together or a special place you touch her: It’s how you make eye-to-eye contact and make her feel. It might seem obvious that to be good in bed you have to be good at kissing, but many men discount just how key it is to being a thoughtful, unselfish partner.
3) Good Sex Involves Communication
Just like you’ve learned that not all women are turned on by the same things, not everyone communicates the same way in the bedroom. But to have the kind of good sex that will keep her always excited to see you — and get naked with you — you need to create an environment within your sex life that lends itself to being open and honest. This will make your sex life instantly more exciting because you’re both willing to verbalize your needs.
4) Good Sex Is Playful
No one likes the same ol’, same ol’ routine in any part of their life — and when it comes to sex, variety is really what keeps the passion and desire growing. It is noted that to have a great sex life that makes her happy (and you, of course!) — you can’t take it so seriously that you take away the genuine playfulness that comes with making love. The only key to remember is to keep it light-hearted, but not childish.
