Before starting up a family, there are things you should know about your partner before venturing into marriage with them and be sure you and your partner are comfortable with individual and shared goals. Set aside to have these conversations so you can be sure of what you both think and feel. There are so many factors and things you should consider and know about your partner before saying “Yes, I do”.
1) Finances: Money, debt and finances are important things to talk about before marriage. Economic and financial distress can have effect in marriage. Knowing your partner’s financial status, how they spend or save or if they make budget can help one run and achieve family goals.
2) Medical records: Checking and knowing your partner’s health status and challenges can actually set you on the path to know what to expect if something comes up on the long run. You should know his/her Genotype, Blood group e.t.c You can as well ask what health problem runs in their family. Some conditions like Cancer, diabetes often have hereditary components.
3) Dealing with Conflict: Your partner might only be of age to get married but may not mature enough. Knowing how your partner deals with conflicts will determine how your marriage will be. Check if they are the physically, emotionally,or mentally-abusive one or the one who just walk away and not care to resolve disagreements.
4) Family values and beliefs: Check your partner’s background, what family he comes from and what they believe in if it is in your approval or interest. You can ask questions like their view and opinion about infidelity, choosing between family or work, political view, religious view and most importantly, how they want and raise children.